Friends are a key part of the high school experience because they help make high school a memorable time. To attain lasting friendships, being genuine is key. Author Dale Carnegie, who specializes in self-improvement, outlines five ways to be a good friend.
• Become genuinely interested in people. To do this, make an effort to find out about a person’s interests. Genuinely want to learn more about their interests. Senior Anna Schuh appreciates when fellow students are genuinely interested in her. “I think someone who is genuinely interested in others makes a good friend because they make whoever they are talking to feel wanted and interested,” Schuh said.
• Smile. Instead of forcing a smile, try having a friendly, welcoming smile. When a smile is inviting, people feel comfortable and want to talk. Senior Taylor Edwards always tries to have a welcoming smile on her face. “When people smile it makes me want to smile and talk to them,” Edwards said.
• A person’s name is the sweetest sound to him/herself. When a person hears her own name, it gets her attention. Hearing his name makes him feel important and special. Senior Christie Swing makes sure to say a person’s name to make them feel important. “When you’re having a conversation with someone and they say your name there is an instant connection and it makes it more personal,” Swing said.
• Be a good listener. Instead of being the talker, try listening to the person. This makes a person feel special and cared for. Senior Cameron Engel appreciates when a person listens to him. “Good listeners will understand you better and be better friends,” Engel said.
• Sincerely make the person feel important. People like attention and feeling special. Senior Meaghan McGraw likes when her friends make her feel important. “When you sincerely make someone feel important it makes them feel good,” McGraw said. “You let them know that you care and it lets your friend know that you always have their back.”
Being genuinely interested in people is a way to having good friendships according to Carnegie’s book. “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you,” Carnegie stated.