By Erica Gumbert
Promposals, an extravagant form of asking someone out to a dance, especially prom, have become the social norm and they shouldn’t be. Many feel like they have to go to great lengths to publically ask someone out to a dance and, coincidentally, the rise of promposals coincides with the rise of technology and social media, according to Daily Mail.
Prom is a night of dancing with friends, creating memories, living in the moment, and a rite of passage for upperclassmen. Teenagers shouldn’t stress themselves out by following this phenomenon of extravagant proposals for only one night. While most of the gestures are sweet at heart and funny, it’s just as likely an empty gesture.
Do people not realize that expecting their love interests to go to elaborate lengths to publically declare their love for them is a bit much? This extravagant way of “promposing” is becoming the social norm for high school students, and it may just be due to social media and their hopes of becoming viral on the internet. They don’t necessarily care about the other person and treating them to a special night as much as they care about likes and retweets on Twitter.
Many students have expressed their delight in promposals. Senior Francesca Lopreato loved the idea of elaborate invitations. “I love going all out for people and being extra. It’s what I’m good at,” she said, but added that promposals are very dependent on the people involved. “If they’re dating, then it’s really sweet, but if they have never talked to the other person, then it gets weird,” she said.
“They aren’t entirely necessary, but I get why people like them so much,” junior Elyse Thaman said. “It’s a fun little thing to do for someone.”
If teenagers keep up this trend, will they do promposals for any other date night? The classic dinner and a movie date turning into an extravaganza involving flowers, posters, and candles, forcing people to have to continue one-upping themselves every time they ask another person out?
All of the dances, not just prom, seem to require gaudy invitations as the new normality. Guys are expected to ask their crush, their crush feels required to say yes, and the girl is rude if she says no. Promposals are primarily sexist since the expectancy is never of a girl to ask a guy. In addition, the girl feels pressured to say yes since the guy has gone out of his way to ask her and doesn’t want to seem rude or impolite, especially in public. The risk-to-reward ratio for the guy clearly isn’t worth it either; the guy risks public ridicule for being rejected by a cute girl, or he gets a date to an awkward school dance.
Whether or not one is asked in an excessive way shouldn’t be the sole reason one says yes or no to being asked. One should say yes to being asked if they like the person and want to spend more time with him or her instead of doing so out of obligation.